Do you want freedom from undesired negative emotions, such as fear, anger, sadness and anxiety? By releasing these emotions, this leave’s you free to behave more appropriately in future – without the emotional ‘baggage’ of the past.
Firstly, negative emotions block the flow of energy in the body. The latest thinking in quantum biology indicates that emotions trapped in the body have the real possibility of creating functional blockages in the neurology, and nervous system, so trapped emotions could actually cause the brain to send wrong signals to the various organs in the body, or perhaps no signals at all! That means that trapped emotions in the body, which we haven't let go of, can be not only the source of discomfort, but also the source of other physical problems like heart attack.
Second, negative emotions block the flow of success and keep us from achieving our goals. How many times has anger got in your way when you wanted to communicate something to a friend, co-worker or even worse, a close family member? Probably too often.
Third, think about a time when you felt angry in the past. Did you say to yourself, "this feels great...I hope I can continue to feel this way all day." No, of course not!
In fact, we'll usually do anything to get out of feeling the sensations of a negative emotion. The last time someone broke your heart and you felt sad, did you say "this sadness feels great. I hope no joy comes along to break up this feeling of sadness, because it feels so good". Of course not! You probably will do anything to get away from the feeling including sleep, immerse yourself in work, exercise, go to a movie, talk to a friend -- anything to keep from feeling the bad feelings. That's why people smoke, drink, overeat, abuse others, take drugs, are co-dependent, and so much more. They do it because they want to get away from the terrible feelings of negative emotions.
Here's a simple test using the emotion of anger.
Remember an event from your past about which you felt angry. Maybe a time when a bully hurt or intimidated you at school, maybe when a friend betrayed you or when a co-worker got a pay rise and you didn't? Or when your kids left the house in a mess, or when you got cut off on the motorway.
As you think of it now, is the feeling of anger associated with that memory?
Do you remember feeling angry about it at the time.
If you can remember feeling anger, that anger is as much a part of you now as it was then...because it was never cleared. It resides in your memory bank as something that made you angry. And, if it can still be remembered with anger in the present, then it does have an effect on what and how your future comes about.
Certainly, in the case of anger, can certainly interfere with creating a happy future. Why, because if we live our present day lives with the extra baggage of unresolved negative events from our past, there's not much room to create a happy future.
Also, the problem with unresolved negative emotions is that they block us from having what we want in the future, by continually reminding us of times in our lives when things weren't the way we wanted them to be.
Now, what about anger. Think of all the times anger gets in your way. How many times in the last week have you been angry?
When you think of it, maybe more than you thought...I mean as you think about it. The question is, where and when do we get angry.
Some people get angry on the motorway. that road gets all jammed up, do you boil. Does your blood boil?
How about in relationships? How many times does your sadness get in the way in your relationships. Perhaps with your spouse, or the person you are living with.
How many times a week does anger get in the way of adequate, or meaningful communication. Or, even get in the way of the process of relating, or being able to be friends with the person you are living with.
How many times does anger get in your way with your kids. Think about your kids for a minute. You know, the thing about kids is that they know all of our buttons to push. kids know exactly what button to push to just get your goat and set you off. How many times does anger get in the way of you having a meaningful relationship with your kids.
How much better would you be without anger toward your kids. And, in business, how often during a given week are you feeling angry.
Well, you don't have to learn to live with it. You don't have to learn to keep it under control, you don't have to stuff it. Working together you can learn to let go of emotions from the past.